Take Control Now: Understanding the Circle of Influence

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It know, I know... I's easy to feel overwhelmed by factors beyond our control. 

But, so what? I mean, is that it? Isn't it time to get real about how you do this thing called life?

You see, true personal development and effective living come from focusing on what we can influence and letting go of what we cannot. 

This concept is best visualised through the Circle of Influence, as opposed to The Circle of Concern.


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The Circle of Influence vs. The Circle of Concern

Stephen Covey introduced these concepts in "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People." They're essential for anyone looking to improve life in relationships, finance, parenting, and overall success.

Circle of Concern: Includes everything you care about, from global issues like climate change to personal concerns like job security. It's vast and often leads to stress if focused on too much.

Circle of Influence: A smaller subset within your Circle of Concern, consisting of things you can actually affect. By concentrating on this circle, you can exert more control over your life and create positive change.

Determining Factors vs. Contributing Factors

Another thing we often tend to confuse when we are on the losing side is to separate what happens versus what you can control. To effectively use your Circle of Influence, understand the difference between Determining Factors and Contributing Factors.

Determining Factors: Elements that have a direct impact on your life, such as your mindset, skills, and actions. You have significant control over these.

Contributing Factors: Elements that influence outcomes but are not solely responsible for them, like economic conditions or societal norms. These are often outside your control.

How to Expand Your Circle of Influence

Identify Your Circles: List your concerns, then categorize them into what you can influence (Circle of Influence) and what you cannot (Circle of Concern).

Print out the diagram below:


Focus on What You Can Control: Invest energy into Determining Factors. For instance, if concerned about health, focus on diet and exercise rather than genetic predispositions.

Take Proactive Actions: Take responsibility for your actions and outcomes. Look for solutions and improvements rather than dwelling on problems.

Influence Others Positively: Extend your Circle of Influence through positive interactions. Set a positive example and provide support to help others focus on what they can control.

Let Go of What You Can’t Control: Practice acceptance and mindfulness to reduce stress about things outside your influence. Acknowledge these issues without letting them dominate your thoughts and actions.

Real-World Application

As a parent, while you can’t control global events, you can focus on your child’s upbringing, education, and values. Mentally download resilience, critical thinking, and a proactive attitude to equip them for life's challenges.  In your professional life, while you may not control market trends or company decisions, you can enhance your skills, build strong relationships, and maintain a positive attitude. These actions expand your Circle of Influence, increasing job satisfaction and career progression.

Take Away:

Mastering the distinction between your Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern, and understanding Determining Factors versus Contributing Factors, is crucial for personal development. Focus your energy on where it can have the most impact, leading to greater success and satisfaction in all areas of your life.

Remember, life is too short to waste time on things you can’t control. Channel your efforts into what you can change, and watch your influence, effectiveness, and happiness grow.

 

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